How do we make the wedding day launch the couple on a good start to their new life? There are a couple things we talked about in class and certain components that add to a successful marriage after the ceremony. Let's start from the beginning with asking a question, is the proposal important? Is it just a custom we perform that's mindlessly apart of this process? A proper proposal sets the tone for what you're about to go into. A proposal is a question presented in a way of respect for each other and the life changing direction you're going into together. When the guy proposes, he is essentially laying everything out on the table for them. Marriage is a real sacrifice, so it's very respectful to do a proper proposal. Parts are very important. As romantic as it can be, it's also like suggesting a contract proposing everything that's there to offer. A very important factor is did he ask dad for her hand in marriage? That's shows a huge about of responsibility on his part and respect for the family.
So what makes a great wedding? In a nutshell the most important thing is making sure you are prepared mentally, spiritually, emotionally for this next step. Being there with close family and friends will make it the most special. Don't get caught up in "the perfect wedding", just enjoy the moment with those you love. It's important not to get too caught up in the colors, dress, how your hair is done etc. Don't get so caught up that you don't focus on the most important part, the covenants you make through this process of exaltation.
When making invitations, don't do it through facebook! If you want to gather contact info from friends and family that's ok, but it's very unprofessional to create an invite facebook page.
An average American wedding comes down to $21 grand. The money comes from credit cards mostly from her parents, although at times the couple does finance it as well. Marriage starting in debt starts in stress. If your dress is so expensive, ring is a fortune, reassess where you're focus is. You're wedding day is a wonderful day as it's suppose to be, but it's only a day. Marriage lasts forever. One tip, try simple, elegant, and look for deals.
One problem is there is almost a bigger emphases on the reception than the actual sealing. Technically the reception is suppose to be about the community receiving you and your spouse as a new couple into society. It's been redefined as the biggest party you can throw for everyone invited. We talked about the reception line. It's a very formal custom, and Brother Williams said that we can do away with it all together. Most the time the people standing in line to meet and greet get tired and annoyed with standing their for so much of the reception, and the people invited enjoy being able to socialize at their own pace. Most people in general really don't like the reception line.
What should the involvement of the family be to the couple after the wedding? Boundaries need to be set enough so the new couple can be left to establish themselves.
Remember also when making all these plans for your wedding to plan them together, or make sure your spouse is good with everything. Make sure to talk and communicate about ideas and preferences, it's just as much your wedding as it is theirs.
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