Saturday, October 1, 2011

Family Systems: Communication

I really wanted to study more about communication within the family and because communication is the key to survival, I've been interested in any information that includes different types of communication and how they can be applied better in the family.
Communication can be one of the biggest dysfunctions even over gender roles and behavior issues. Pathological communication is defined as all the ways communication can be misinterpreted because it is unclear. Contradictory communication is a great example of this and is commonly known as the double bind. Two messages are sent both verbally and nonberbally which speak two different things. For example, when your younger brother apologizes for something he broke or got into and stomps his feet while yelling he's sorry, you can tell his communications skills are not being expressed in a way that represents how he feels. This communication disorder can also apply further than sister brother, or parent child relationships. It also becomes a problem in couple and marraige relationships. In the double bind situation the reciever is left having to decide what is the truth. Bad communication in a family results in low self-esteem and people become defensive as a result to try and protect their esteem.
Building good communication is an essential key to keeping a family together. Not only does everyone's self esteem go up and everyone feels better about themselves, but it allows the family to become a stronger unit.
Honestly listen and give truthful information when communicating with your family in a way that will not confuse them or make them angry. This will include the spirit into our homes where we hope to become a temple, heaven on Earth.

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